The world isn’t that simple. It’s full of posturing and pissing contests. It’s full of racism, sexism, ageism, caste systems, and any other form of hate you can imagine. It’s up to you to help change it instead of “oh, they’re just joking”. The “I’m not _____ but….” is always an excuse. The ” I’m just kidding” follow up is a way to cover your ass so you don’t have to deal with the repercussions of being a dick. Nobody has the right to rip on someone for ascetic things. One bitch that I have is that sex crimes are not committed because of attractiveness. It’s about power. Don’t ever look at someone and say “well you’re fat and ugly, why would he want to rape you?” don’t ever say “well, if you wouldn’t dress/look/act like such a slut…” that has jack shit to do with a sex crime. Don’t let someone talk to a sex crime survivor like that. Don’t let someone make assumptions based on your race, culture, ethnicity, social status, relations, sex life, or anything else. Don’t let somebody get away with something simply because the were “joking” or it wad “freedom of speech” those are excuses for people who don’t want to take responsibility for their ignorance.